Not flesh of my flesh

Nor bone of my bone,

But still miraculously my own.

Never forget for a single minute,

You didn’t grow under my heart

But in it.

– Fleur Conkling Heyliger

A mother does not always have to be the one who gives birth to a child. She could be anyone who takes care of a child even if they are not connected biologically. Even Lord Krishna had two mothers, one who gave him birth Devaki, and the other Yashodha Maa who took care of him and protected him. The connection might not be by blood but it is from the heart and that is the purest thing in the world. So, this Mother’s Day let’s celebrate every mother.

Let us take a look at some of the Yashodha Maa’s of this generation:

  1. Non-binary Mother: Gauri Sawant, a non-binary activist proved us that motherhood has no particular gender. She is the first non-binary mother in India. In an interview Gauri said,” Motherhood is beyond gender; it is more of a behaviour. It was beyond any label which decided whether I could or could not be a mother. It is a feeling of caring and nurturing another individual and it can be experienced by anyone, not just the one who gave birth to the individual in question” [1]. She adopted 16-year-old Gayatri, who was orphaned after her mother expired due to HIV. 
  2. Mother Teresa: A Roman Catholic nun who devoted her life to care and serve the destitute and dying people around the world. She spent many years in Kolkata, India where she founded The Missionaries of Charity, a religious congregation devoted to helping those in great need and to look after abandoned babies. As Mother Teresa said herself, “The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread” [2], she looked after the people like a mother looks after her child. She was a living saint, a true definition of a mother.
  3. Single Mother: According to the Juvenile Justice Act, amended in 2006, adoption means, “The process through which the adopted child is permanently separated from his biological parents and becomes the legitimate child of his adoptive parents with all the rights, privileges and responsibilities that are attached with the relationship.” [3] Single women can adopt a child by following the guidelines of the Central Adoption Resource Authority (CARA), which is an autonomous body governed by the Ministry of Women & Child Development. Sushmita Sen is one of the biggest examples of a single mother. She adopted two girls, Renee in 2000 and Alisah in 2010. In an interview, she opposed the generalised views of adoption as an act of charity instead for her it was a matter of celebrating motherhood.[4]
  4. Sapphist Mothers: Sapphist mothers either go for adoption or one mother is genetically connected to the child while the other one is a non-biological mother. In India a sapphist couple can’t adopt a child but a single sapphist can adopt a child. However, in many countries its allowed. Usually, the non-biological mother is made invisible by the law and frequently by society in general. All the legal rights of the child are given to the mother who is genetically connected to the child, still the non-biological mother loves the child likes her own.
  5. Unmarried Fathers: Lastly, how can we forget about the single/unmarried fathers who have acted like mothers? ‘A father cannot be enough for a child, a child needs a mother’, this phrase has been proven wrong many times. With the right parenting, a father can be a mother too for his child. One example is Karan Johar who recently became a father of twins through surrogacy. It is a common belief that a mother can only take responsibility for taking care of the kid or a mother is a better parent than a father. However, times have changed, these days many men are becoming single dads either because of surrogacy or by custody of the kid.

Having a mother is great, but having someone who genuinely cares about you, looks after you, guides you just like a mother does is a blessing. Everyone has a mother who is not genetically connected to them. That person could be anyone, it could be a maternal aunt or a paternal aunt (a bhua or a maasi), a father or a brother, a teacher or a roommate, a friend or a sister, anyone who gives a motherly feeling. 

Strivaasa appreciates every mother and is celebrating them this Mother’s Day. Join the Strivaasa community by gifting your mother Strivaasa Jewellery. 

Comment below and let us know about your Yashodha Maa.

Article by #SuperStri: Rupinder Kaur (Instagram handle: @rup_k_)

References:

[1] https://www.hindustantimes.com/pune-news/motherhood-is-beyond-gender-says-pune-s-first-transgender-mother-gauri-sawant/story-26uEhEvEqqXmXKuwcVfu1I.html

[2] https://www.biographyonline.net/nobelprize/mother_teresa.html

[3] https://blog.ipleaders.in/single-parent-adoption/#:~:text=According%20to%20the%20Juvenile%20Justice,that%20are%20attached%20with%20the

[4] https://www.ndtv.com/entertainment/sushmita-sen-adoption-was-not-an-act-of-charity-but-my-wisest-decision-at-24-2080090#:~:text=Sushmita%20clarified%20that%20as%20opposed,It%20stabilised%20my%20life.